He called off engagement. Mixed messages

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2006
He called off engagement. Mixed messages
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Sun, 01-20-2008 - 9:14pm

Please see past posts to get back-story:


I am confused about is the mixed messages. He says it's over, he doesn't see a future with me, our relationship won't work.


Then, he agrees to "talk in a few days to see how he feels". He says "I have been known to make mistakes" (in saying he might've made a mistake in dumping me). I asked if it is completely crazy of me to think if there still might be a future for us and he replied "No, you aren't crazy. I can't predict the future".


Early in the same phone call that was our demise he said he was HAPPY, that he DIDN'T want to break up, that he WANTED to get married, etc. Then, I guess it escalated too far and it was too much for him. So, he dumped me.


Is he still conflicted, or am I just wishful thinking? This is KILLING ME!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 9:25pm

Here is a past post:


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-11-2006
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 10:12pm
Thank you for posting. But, the "fights dirty" post was not about my fiance.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2007
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 10:55pm
After reading your past posts, I think you deserve better treatment than what you have been getting. I know you may not want to look at it this way, but it's probably a blessing in disguise that he called it off before you got married. He does not seem to treat you fairly; I hope you can focus on this aspect more than the fact that he left. In time, you'll be able to.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 11:12am
How long have you been dating this man?