He can't forget my past!
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| Fri, 03-14-2008 - 10:05am |
I have been with my boyfriend Ryan for six months, and it has been wonderful. We love each other very much and I've been having a great time spending my life with him.
Only one problem in our relationship: he can't forget about my past. I know people say honesty is the best policy, but I feel like I've made a terrible mistake. Early on in our relationship, we talked about our past relationships.
Around the time I met Ryan, I was healing from a painful breakup (I got dumped pretty bad a month before), and while Ryan and I were getting to be friends, I was spending time with a friend of mine, Patrick, who revealed his crush on me, and things moved fast between us. We did not sleep together, but we did fool around, and we were not officially dating. I know it wasn't classy of me, but I was still very messed up from my break up, my self-confidence was

Welcome to the board queensgirl86,
There is nothing that you can do to make him change the way he feels about what happened between you and Patrick. Nothing. You are right this is a HUGE red flag. This type of behavior isn't something that a person can normally change very easily either. My bet is that your interaction with other men isn't inappropriate. I really don't see any way that you can make this better because you didn't and aren't doing anything wrong.
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Welcome to the board queensgirl86,.
Sorry, but Ryan as a bit of a 'double standard' and that's a HUGE RED FLAG.