He cheated and I'm 7 months pregnant
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| Mon, 06-04-2007 - 6:59pm |
I found out 2 weeks that my fiancé of 8 years has been having an affair for almost a year. I can’t even comprehend this! I am now 7 months pregnant with his child and I am going to be a single mom and I am scared to death!! We tried for so long to have this baby but he claims at first when I found out that he was cheating that all the trying pushed him away because that was all I cared about was having a baby. He then came back and said how terribly sorry he is and it isn’t my fault and he shouldn’t have blamed me for it and how could he throw away everything he loved and wanted. I made him move all his stuff out and now I am in a house alone I didn’t want in the first place.
He is going to go to counseling to see how he got to that point and how it all went wrong. He claims that he was perfect for 7 years not even had the thought to cheat and he said something happened. I am in so much shock because I would’ve never in a million years thought that he would do something like that, EVER! The thing I also don’t understand is the girl he has been cheating on me with is only 19 and he is 28!!
This is my first child and I don’t know what to expect and now having to do it alone scares me beyond belief. The thing that makes me mad and makes me feel so weak is that I still love him, he has been my best friend for 8 years. I want to hate him but I can’t do it. I wanted to burn his stuff but I couldn’t bring my self to destroy any of it. I always told myself if I was put in a situation like this I would burn his stuff and hate him for life well now that I am in it I don’t know what I want or need to do.
It doesn’t help that I am 7 month pregnant and I have all these hormones running through me. I feel cheated out of my future. We had all these plans on how we were going to raise our daughter and now my life plans has changed. He wants to go to counseling and get a lot of help and then talk about working it out and I love him but how could I ever trust him again?? I am seeing a counselor myself for my own trust issues. And IF it ever worked out we would have to see a couples counselor too. I don’t know what I want. I love him and I would love for us to be family like we had planned but I don’t know, Does it ever work out again after infidelity?

Welcome to the board almae17,
How horrible for you.
Welcome to the board almae17,
I am sorry you are going through this. I can't even imagine what you are going through right now. I think individual counseling for both of you is an excellent idea. I agree with Carrie. Don't decide anything right now. See how the counseling goes and how you feel about how and the possiblity of getting back together. If you do decide to get back together, go to couples counseling together.
Good luck and hugs.
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