he cheated and she's pregnant
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he cheated and she's pregnant
| Mon, 01-21-2008 - 11:35pm |
I've never been on one of these before, but I'm so confused, I don't know what to do. I found out last week that my boyfriend had a one-night stand two months ago - and that the woman is pregnant. There are so many things to deal with, but up until today, I thought she was having an abortion. Now she's not. I've gone through so many emotions in just a week - but I got to a point where I felt that, with a lot of work and time, we could get through this. People make mistakes and I feel that I can forgive him - we have a strong bond and I think we can get to a place of trust again. But now that this woman is keeping the baby, I don't know what to do. I'm having terrible thoughts - how I don't want him to be around the kid (which I know is wrong on so many levels) - and of course, he has said he would be involved with the child. I'm so angry and I don't know if I can deal with this. I want to be a better person than this - but I'm so full of hate right now. I don't doubt his love for me (despite a very screwed up decision), but I don't want this woman around him. Do I have any right to set boundaries here? -- like tell him he can't do things like go to the doctor with her...and they work together -- I feel that our relationship can't heal if they see each other - do I have a right to give those ultimatums? I feel like nothing is in my control and I'm just waiting around to see how events unfold - and they completely affect my life and future. Can you give me any advice??

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I know exactly what you are going through (my post is "Needing to get past the past) except
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