He Cheated & I don't know what to do...

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-16-2004
He Cheated & I don't know what to do...
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Fri, 07-16-2004 - 10:11am
My and my boy have been together five years and have been through a lot of stuff. I'm 21 and he's a year younger. Most of our problems started because my mother refused to meet or accept him. My first year of college we broke up for two months where I was involved with two boys (but we didn't have sex). He came back to me and things were much better... or so I thought. About a month ago he told me he had cheated on me several times in the past year with four different girls. One of the girls is pregnant and due in the fall...

I love him and we're a good couple but I don't know what to do. He's my closest friend but I just can't stop thinking about how he's hurt me. I know I haven't been perfect and I may flirt too much but I've never done anythin while we were together. I feel like I can't leave him and I can't be with him at the same time. I'm SO confused and I need help!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 11:25am
If you stay with him you will be the girlfriend of someone who cheats regularly. If you stay you are sending him a message that it is o.k. to sleep around because you will always be there. If your relationship can survive a pregnancy like this than he can get away with anything. A good boyfriend or best friend wouldn't put you through this.

I think it is time to move on and let him focus on his responsibility to this child.

You have many years of dating ahead of you. Enjoy it and move on to someone who will treat you better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2004
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 11:33am
Hi,

Why would you want to stay with a guy who has confessed to cheating on you (even one time is bad) and one of the girls is pregnant? You would be better of to get as far away from him as possible. He seems to have his plate pretty full right now and you are very young and I am sure can do much better. I know it hurts to leave someone especially if you feel they are also your best friend but you need to get away to start your healing process. Best of luck to you.