He cheated on me with his ex

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2007
He cheated on me with his ex
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 7:40pm

Hi,


I'll start from the beggining.


I have been with my partner for a year and I love him with all my heart.


He has an 18 month old baby with his ex girlfrined who is still in love with him.


In the past few weeks I have a feeling he was keeping something from me. Last week I went through his phone and found texts from his ex saying they had sex. I confronted him about this. He admitted to me that they had sex twice and he is sorry.


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 2:11am

Welcome to the board becky1986,


I feel for you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 8:43am

He has a baby with another woman, dumped her, started dating you claiming he "loves" you, then cheats on you with her. This is a guy who can't make up his mind about anything and only a fool would stay with him (or have a baby with him).

I will always be baffled by women who cry/fight/lose sleep over men like this. Take a stand for your self-respect, thank whatever deity you pray to that you don't have a child by him, and tell him to leave.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 8:56am

"He says he may get back with me in the future and never say never."


Never say never?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2007
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 9:32am

He has asked me to stay at his tonight!


He said he misses me but he is still not sure what to do.


I know you have all said to let go but it's too hard to do. He was not just my boyfriend, he was my best friend to. And he has told his ex now and she is out of his life. She is going to take the baby to his mums so they dont have to see eachother again.


I know you will think this is stupid but I still want him and feel I should go tonight

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 10:31am

It is stupid. You know it's stupid, but you're doing it anyway, because you're overwhelmed by your feelings for him. We all understand how that feels.

If you're going to let blind emotion lead you right now, then there's nothing any of us can do to talk to out of it. Just know that there will come a point where you're going to have to walk away.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 10-23-2007 - 1:30pm

Becky, if you go and you sleep with him and tomorrow or the next day he says "I'm confused" or goes back to his ex, are you going to feel used and hurt?