he cheeted, how do i trust him!?
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he cheeted, how do i trust him!?
| Tue, 05-13-2008 - 8:16pm |
hey everyone, my boyfriend cheated on me november 2007, a month after our one year anniversary. We had a great relationship before that and it seemed as though everything was fine. The morning it happend he called me 10 min after apparently crying on the phone and told me what happend. He said it lasted 2 min and he pushed her off and he seemed really upset. Since that day I have had very big trust issues, ive wanted to look through his phone and his facebook and have because Im so nervious. I feel bad that i invaded his privacy but i felt like i had no other choice. It feels like im going crazy because i dont even like him speaking to girls let alone haning with them. HELP ME! What do I do?!?!?

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Welcome to the board cheerchick2008,
Healing betrayal and rebuilding trust usually takes counseling.
I'm also of the mindset that if you aren't married and have no kids together, it's really not worth trying to fix.
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Welcome to the board sd_gal,
In an effort to get you more reponses to your post, will
Your reaction is extreme. He made a mistake, but he called you immediately and told you about it and it only lasted a few minutes. The question is why "you" can't let it go? He stimulated deeper feelings inside of you of insecurity which you haven't been able to handle up to now. If you feel so distrustful of him that you have to check through his phone, this is extremely unhealthy for both of you. I suggest you speak to a counselor to work through your issues with trust. If you don't do it with this relationship, these issues can haunt you even with someone else.
All the best,
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