he cheeted, how do i trust him!?

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Registered: 05-13-2008
he cheeted, how do i trust him!?
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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 8:16pm
hey everyone, my boyfriend cheated on me november 2007, a month after our one year anniversary. We had a great relationship before that and it seemed as though everything was fine. The morning it happend he called me 10 min after apparently crying on the phone and told me what happend. He said it lasted 2 min and he pushed her off and he seemed really upset. Since that day I have had very big trust issues, ive wanted to look through his phone and his facebook and have because Im so nervious. I feel bad that i invaded his privacy but i felt like i had no other choice. It feels like im going crazy because i dont even like him speaking to girls let alone haning with them. HELP ME! What do I do?!?!?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 6:00pm

Reading material to consider:


His Needs, Her Needs by Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr


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Registered: 12-19-2007
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 1:43pm

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Registered: 05-13-2008
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 5:38pm
i think maybe if he was constantly reassuring me and stuff then i would learn to trust him. i just know that its definetly not something thats going to happen super quick. also, hes kinda flirty by nature, so am i, and if he wasn't like that i also think it would be easyer to trust him. another thing is, hes 3 years older than me. I have always had self asteem issues in our relationship because i think that he can get someone thats so much better and prettyer yata yata yata that is his own age, and before he cheated i thought i knew that he didn;t want anyone else, but after that happend, i guess it just amplified my self asteem issues 10 fold... thats another HUGE problem with me.... self asteem, or lack there of.
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Sat, 05-17-2008 - 6:33pm

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