HE DONE THIS TWICE
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HE DONE THIS TWICE
| Fri, 04-06-2007 - 5:08am |
OK FIRST MY HUSBAND WENT TO A DATING SERVICE ONLINE SAYING THAT HE WAS SINGLE. THIS HAPPEN 4 YEARS AGO. I GAVE HIM A CHANCE. SO HERE IAM I FOUND OUT THAT HE HAS BEEN TALKING TO A FEMALE "FRIEND" BEHIND MY BACK AND HE HAD A EMAIL ADDRESS"AT HIS WORK" THAT I NEVER KNEW HE HAD. BUT ON TOP OF THAT I FOUND OUT HE TALKED TO HER ON THE PHONE AND TOLD HER THAT SHE WAS HIS SOUL MATE. WE HAVE A 22 MONTH OLD SON IM REALLY STUCK. I GAVE UP MY JOB FOR HIM. AND I DONT HAVE A PLACE TO GO. IS THERE ANY HELP FOR US???? IM NOT EVEN SLEEPING.. I SLEEP MAYBE 3 HOURS A DAY. SHOULD WE SEE SOMEBODY?

A few questions Terigibson...
Have you spoken to him about this? If so, what did he say?
Have the two of you started marriage counselling?
Lastly, outside of the online problems, how would you describe your marriage?
I TOLD HIM HE SAID HE SHOULD HAVE TOLD ME THAT HE WAS TALKING TO HER.
HE TELLS ME THAT HE DOESNT REMEMBER TELLING HER THAT THEY WERE SOULDMATES(YEAH RIGHT)
HE IS GOING TO BE GONE FOR A WEEK WHEN HE GETS BACK WE ARE GOING TO WRITE 10 THINGS WHY WE LOVE EACH OTHER AND 10 THINGS WHAT WE NEED TO CHANGE. MAYBE THIS WILL WORK. I JUST CANT TRUST HIM ANYMORE.
Welcome to the board terigibson,
::I TOLD HIM HE SAID HE SHOULD HAVE TOLD ME THAT HE WAS TALKING TO HER.
No, he should not have been talking to her at all.
Until he decides to be honest, you have no reason to trust him. He is going to have to be an open book, providing you with all of his accounts and passwords online, phone bills, and agendas. It is going to be a long time before you trust him again.
I think that since this has happened more than once, you NEED marriage counseling. Doing it on your own probably will just end up with his doing this again. He has no accountability at this point. If you are in counseling, he has accountability to more than just you who "let him" (in his mind) get away with it once already.
If there is truly nothing wrong in your marriage, there is the possibility of his having a sexual addiction. That is another story altogether. It would require his admitting to the addiction, seeking individual counseling, and being in a 12-step group.
It's difficult to tell from the little information you have posted why he had these affairs. Sorry I can't be more help.
In the end, it's not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away
-shing xiong