He is leaving me....b/c he doesn't trust
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He is leaving me....b/c he doesn't trust
| Wed, 07-07-2004 - 11:25am |
I need serious help.... the love of my life is leaving me b/c he doesn't trust me!
I have been the most faithful to him but every once in a while he starts accusing me of cheating!! Now he is leaving me b/c he feels I am not in for true love and I am in for his wealth! I have never asked for anything from him financially, I don't even live with him! I even offered to sign a prenup just to gain his trust!
We have been dating for almost 2 years & we love each other to death. Other than this suspicion issue, we have complete understanding & happiness... We have been through many challenges but every time our love prevails but this time I feel like he is serious about it and won't be back... I know it hurts him very much to feel the way he does but I have not done anything.... He is currently in China at a business trip for 12 days, yesterday he emailed me and asked me to move on! Then he emailed me and asked me to give him couple of days... he can't consentrate at work & he can't sleep but I am no better than he is, I haven't been eating for days now & I have no motive to live if he is not in my life... I never thought love existed but then he showed me the true love... Please help me have him back.... (He doesn't agree to go to relationship counselors, so that is not an option). Please help me.....
I have been the most faithful to him but every once in a while he starts accusing me of cheating!! Now he is leaving me b/c he feels I am not in for true love and I am in for his wealth! I have never asked for anything from him financially, I don't even live with him! I even offered to sign a prenup just to gain his trust!
We have been dating for almost 2 years & we love each other to death. Other than this suspicion issue, we have complete understanding & happiness... We have been through many challenges but every time our love prevails but this time I feel like he is serious about it and won't be back... I know it hurts him very much to feel the way he does but I have not done anything.... He is currently in China at a business trip for 12 days, yesterday he emailed me and asked me to move on! Then he emailed me and asked me to give him couple of days... he can't consentrate at work & he can't sleep but I am no better than he is, I haven't been eating for days now & I have no motive to live if he is not in my life... I never thought love existed but then he showed me the true love... Please help me have him back.... (He doesn't agree to go to relationship counselors, so that is not an option). Please help me.....

You can't change him or reassure me. I would wonder though, if he doesn't trust you if it's because he doesn't really trust himself.....and/or if he's already cheated.
Carrie
Should I talk to anyone in his family or his friends?
That is becuase he's never been in this to 'get serious" - this isn't that he's scared and he really wants commitment and doesn't know how to accept that...this is I've never wanted this to get this serious and now that I've gone along enjoying all the pleasures of hte moment...I've found that I've backed myself into a corner where obligation, commitment and rquirement are about to become mine 24/7. I dont wnat that, I don't want to lose my freedom, independent, and personal security.
So NOW he doesn't trust you.....he never did "trust you" - he never considered whther or not he trusted you...he wasn't serious about the relationship so trust wasn't the point. HE didnt' need to trust you with something that you weren't ever going to get access to or input on...and now that the situation has "gotten serious" because of intertwining, comingling and cojoining things he says "wait, I don't want to be hemmed in, I don't want my options eliminated."
Erin
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