He left me??

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Registered: 10-17-2004
He left me??
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Sun, 10-17-2004 - 10:10pm
I was with my boyfriend for a year and a half. Almost a year into it, he cheated on me and didn't admit it to me till people told me two months later. I was too weak to let go of him and he seemed so sorry and like he truly loved me. I never had a day where I didn't have to worry about what he was doing and who he was with and a couple of weeks ago, he broke up with me because i was being too suspicious. I am still very much in love with him and i still talk to him, although I am so angry with him. I want him back, but part of me feels like this could be better, no more worrying. I just dont get why HE broke up with me and why he still says he hopes that one day we may get back together. He became a different person after his affair and I was thinking that maybe it was my fault some way. I don't know what I did, because I truly feel I was a great girlfriend who loved him very much. Did i do something wrong or give him a bad sign in some way?

katie
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Registered: 08-26-2004
In reply to: ktmay6
Sun, 10-17-2004 - 10:43pm
It is best he left you since you didn't have the strength to let him go. It is NOT your fault. If you were acting susipious or whatever you had every right to since he had proven that he could not be trusted.

He left you because he knows that you know he is a cheater and will have a hard time trusting him again. If he really loved you, he would stay with you and deal with you but he is instead probably moving on to another woman who is naive and does not know he is a cheater that way he can get away with it.

He is acting like a different person after his affair because he got caught.. not because you are bad in some way.

Think of it this way.... if he cheated on you after just a year or 2 and you weren't married how could you expect him to be faithful to you after you married him and were with him for 5 or 10 years. Let him go. I wouldn't even bother talking to him anymore. FInd someone who will be trustworthy and respectful.