He lied about something small???

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Registered: 05-27-2004
He lied about something small???
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Thu, 06-03-2004 - 4:29pm
I have a concern. I just found out today that my boyfriend lied to me about something really silly. He didn't actually lie, he made up a story and kept it up. I don't know why he would do this. When I met him he told me that his mom's car used to be his and he signed it over to her because he could not afford it anymore. She has a nice car. Anyway, yesterday his mom got into a really bad car accident and totalled the car. So I've been hanging out with his mom and talking about the car with her, and in the process found out that she bought the car when she got married 2 years ago. I told her what her son said about signing that car over to her, and she said, that no, he wasn't telling the truth.

This seems so silly to me, why would he make up a story like that, and yesterday he was referring to the car and when he signed it over to her, etc.

I wouldn't think he'd make a story up and lie to me like that. So I called him at work and caught him in the lie. He said he was sorry for lying and he made it up because he wanted to impress me and make himself look good by previously owning a nice car.

What is going on! I'm confused now and can't help but wonder if he's lying about anything else. He's a wonderful man, caring, generous, understanding and I thought honest, it hurts me that he'd think he needs to impress me and tell a lie to do so.

I don't want to break up with him for something like this, but my trust is shaken, I'm just shocked that something like this would come from him, it is so out of character and i'm not sure what to do.

Any ideas???

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 8:17pm
I think you have to really take a step back and evaluate everything that has happened so far. Can you really trust him? Is he really good for you for the long term?

Go slow and give it time. I think the right answer will come to you in time.

My reaction is that there is more to this than what you say here - meaning this is something not to worry about - or something to worry about - but it is hard to guess with what you are saying. Guys do like to impress girls but maybe he has deeper issues? Or maybe it was just silly?

It is a flag.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2004
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 8:41pm
Its a guy thing. He didnt want you to think he was a loser by driving mommies car. so he said it was his. Made him feel more like a man.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Thu, 06-03-2004 - 8:47pm
Does he lie to impress people often? Think back and think objectively. Is this a one time incident? How did his mother react when you told her. Was she baffled or did it not surprise her at all?


Edited 6/3/2004 8:56 pm ET ET by ciao_gina