he loves me...just not in love with me
Find a Conversation
he loves me...just not in love with me
| Mon, 08-16-2004 - 2:17pm |
My husband recently told me that while he loves me...he's not IN love with me...he said that he doesn't want to divorce but I don't know what to do...how can you stay with someone who isn't in love with you??? we've been married for 8 years and together for 14 years...since we were 16 years old...do I stay and fight for it..although I've been trying to make him happy since January or do I cut my losses?

You sound just like me. My wife has also said she doesn't feel like she is "IN LOVE" with me. Loves me like a best friend. I'm not quite sure what to do either. I've given her space but that just seems to have put more distance between us.
Unfortunatley I can't be much help to you. I believe unless your in an abusive relationship and if you both did love each other at one time you should at least try to make things work. MAybe they will or maybe they won't.
At least I know I'm not alone out here. Best of luck..
vanhooa
I would highly recommend going to talk to someone. I used a counselor and she helped me a TON! She helped me see what I could do, could control and couldn't control and make good decisions. It helps to have someone who doesn't have a stake in the situation and can see it more clearly.
Good luck!
Kath
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix
Relationship Resuce, Dr Phil
Carrie