He mainly keeps me and his friends separate (after one year)....

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Registered: 06-23-2010
He mainly keeps me and his friends separate (after one year)....
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Tue, 03-13-2012 - 2:21pm

So, we've decided to break it off.

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Registered: 03-19-2009

RE: <<when a guy says "I'm not ready", that's manspeak for "you're not the 'one', I really care about you, but it's not going to be permanent.">>

I think it's true of women also.

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Registered: 05-20-2009

Something else to remember "red flag" wise........when a guy says "I'm not ready", that's manspeak for "you're not the 'one', I really care about you, but it's not going to be permanent."

There are many stories here, and I've them in real life, when a woman is with a man for a year or two years, or even more......sometimes living together........she will pester him to get married, and he will keep telling her he's not ready.

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Registered: 11-12-2008
Glad to see you answered your own questions. My relationship started off similar. He'd see me when he wanted, but thought his "boy" time would be ruined if I hung out too. I persisted, and he thought it was a "red flag". I hate that term. lol. Anyway, we're still together, and we got over that awkward period. But now there are other issues which leads me to wonder if I should have been the one to see the red flag. LOL Glad you dodged that bullet!
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Registered: 06-23-2010

Yes, this is very true.

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Registered: 04-20-2009

Your X sounds like how my husband was with all of his previous girlfriends before me.

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Registered: 09-17-2005
You're not crazy. It sounds like the relationship was not moving forward because he did not involve you very much in his life, which is certainly something that should be happening after a year together. You did the right thing by breaking it off.
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Registered: 06-23-2010

hah!

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Registered: 12-27-2004

I think you made a good decision to move on, and I don't see that any of the problems lay with you, other than your exaggerated patience with an unsatisfactory relationship.

The engineer didn't make you happy; he was too career-driven and too self-absorbed to give you what you want and need in a relationship.