He might get laid off at work
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| Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:17pm |
Girls! I need your help!
I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half now. I'm a little confused as to where it is turning. He recently was told that the company he works for will be cutting jobs. I have no idea if he is going to get laid off or not. This makes the living situation sort of stressful for me.
You see, I believe that if he is laid off that he will probably find work in some rural state away from the city we live in. He said that he loves me no matter what, and that we can get through things, even another long distance relationship.
Yes, ANOTHER long distance relationship. I don't have the audacity to go through another long distance relation. We recently had one for about three months when I moved to a different city to see if I liked a school out there. I didn't. So I moved back.
I am confused because he doesn't even tell me options about our living situations after this potential lay off. He tells me he might live here. He tells me he might move away. He won't tell me if he wants to live with me if the living situation changes.
Obviously, I am very frustrated. I am on the verge of telling him that I want to move out during this cautious time. Even if he doesn't get laid off, he has made talk of wanting to not stay in our city. I just want him to wait for me to finish college in two years, but I don't think he will.
I figure that his inability to keep me in his equation has something to do with commitment issues. I feel that if he was truly committed to me, he could wait things out, and wait for me to finish college. I already came back from another city to live with him, why the hell would he move away?
Because of all of this, I feel the need to move out into a smaller apartment around the area by my work. I don't want to move out during the school year because I am afraid it will hurt my grades. I'd rather move out in the summer.
Is this a rash decision? Should I wait for these lay offs to occur and then make my decision (they are suppose to occur in August)? Does moving out hurt relationships? Is there a way to bring this up to him without him getting hurt?

Welcome to the board betty25cookie,
I think you are too upset right now to make a decision about moving out. I would wait and think about things and see what happens in August. He may not even get laid off and then you would have been doing all the worrying for nothing. Concentrate on school right now.
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Betty, there's a lot more going on with your boyfriend than a possible layoff. According to this link (http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlrelationsh&msg=28670.1&ctx=0 ), he is not very likely to take your wishes or needs into consideration under any conditions, but particularly when his own world is in turmoil.
I hope you will look out for yourself, and make the most appropriate decisions for your own life, without worrying a great deal about what he's planning to do.