Is he playing me
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Is he playing me
| Mon, 06-21-2004 - 11:53am |
My husband told me this weekend that due to my health problems and past episodes concerning them, he is afraid to get closer to me and has gone out of his way to distance himself from me. He says that since he was told six years ago during an episode that I would not survive, he has wanted to distance himself from me emotionally so that he would not get hurt if I did die, and now he doesn't feel the same way about me. He says he still loves me and wants to stay married but he doesn't know how to get the feelings back that he used to have for me. My mother-in-law thinks that he is just giving me an excuse to go on playing his games and I need to be strong and make him staighten up his act or tell him to get out. I don't know what to think. If he really does have this issue with my health I can totally understand but I don't know how to help him get over this. Any ideas on this matter would be appreciated!

Also - I think it is fair to ask the person who you're married to for support - NOT distance when something tough comes up. If he can't eventually offer support to you (though six years is a long time to wait for that "eventually" to come about), then he does need to go - it it sometimes easier to be alone than it is to have a partner who becomes a source of additional stress when problems arise. youknowwhatimean?