he read my email & won't talk to me now!

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he read my email & won't talk to me now!
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Fri, 10-19-2007 - 3:51am
it's all good


Edited 10/21/2007 2:26 am ET by dhiggins80

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 6:19am

For what it's worth, if I saw a partner's email discussing "Aisha with the cavernous vagina" I'd probably react just as your boyfriend did.

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Registered: 08-26-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 6:33am

~~Especially since it wasn't me who said this about him, it was a friend who was trying to be funny using info that wasn't true but meant to make me feel better when I was worried about my own body.~~

You went way beyond the boundaries of a healthy relationship here. I don't blame this guy for walking away and not wanting anything to do with you. I would do the same if I had read something like that on my b/f e-mail or if I even knew he was talking about our private sex life to others.

I think you need to let this go but first I think you need to apologize to this guy for YOUR poor judgement.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 7:30am

I agree. I'm sorry but that was REALLY low of you to go and discuss your boyfriend's size with your friends. I'm sure he's humiliated at the thought of ever meeting any of them. You've probably ruined his self-esteem. Way to go.

Let him go, if he comes back it will be a miracle but you'd really owe him one.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 11:40am

Welcome to the board dhiggins80,


Ouch. I don't blame him for being upset about this. Even if you didn't say this, in his mind he thinks you told your friends that his penis was small.


I doubt you will hear back from him. I would just let this go and move on.

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Fri, 10-19-2007 - 11:52am

Welcome to the board dhiggins80,


WOW and OUCH.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 3:21pm

I don't think he is being overly sensitive at all.

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Registered: 09-25-2007
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 3:16am
"btw" average is 6 inches.
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Registered: 07-16-2007
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 4:41am
OMG lol
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Registered: 07-16-2007
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 4:47am

Wow. I would let him go. I'm not sure how you're going to come back from this, unless he's REALLY mature and forgives you.

And... maybe your friends are not the best sources of information or support (clearly!). Next time, if you have a similar concern, consider posting your dilemma on these boards anonymously... with a different screen name so it's not so obvious who you are!

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 9:03am

"btw" average is 6 inches.

Never hold a controversy without inviting a scientist.

Although I got the following information about human penis length from Wikipedia, the quoted sources are reliable. I didn't go back to the sources to read the actual research, however. Part of the discrepancy between this info and others is that it makes a difference who's measuring. When men measure their own penises, the average length is longer than when the measuring is done by people who really don't care how long the penises turn out to be.

" * A study published in the September 1996 Journal of Urology concluded that average erect length was 12.9 cm (5.08 in) (Measured by staff). The purpose of the study was to “provide guidelines of penile length and circumference to assist in counseling patients considering penile augmentation.” Erection was pharmacologically induced in 80 physically normal American men (varying ethnicity, average age 54). It was concluded: “Neither patient age nor size of the flaccid penis accurately predicted erectile length.”

* A study published in the December 2000 International Journal of Impotence Research found that average erect penis length was 13.6 cm (5.35 in) (Measured by staff). Quote: "The aim of this prospective study was to identify clinical and engineering parameters of the flaccid penis for prediction of penile size during erection." Erection was pharmacologically induced in 50 Jewish Caucasian patients who had been evaluated for Erectile dysfunction (average age 47±14y). Patients with penis abnormalities or whose ED could be attributed to more than one psychological origin were omitted from the study.

* A study conducted by LifeStyles Condoms found an average of 14.9 cm (5.9 in) with a standard deviation of 2.1 cm (0.8 in) (Measured by staff). The purpose of this study was to ensure properly sized condoms were available. 401 college students volunteered to be measured during 2001 Spring Break in Cancún, Mexico, of which 300 gained an erection to be clinically measured (without pharmacological aid). Some of these factors may meet the definition of possible sample bias."

I hope we can now stop worrying about this aspect of the OP's problem.

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