Is he right?
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Is he right?
| Thu, 08-26-2004 - 8:20pm |
I'll start with a little background. My husband and I have been married 4 years. I have 2 children of my own and he has one. We have none together. We are having problems because I started my own daycare business and he feels that after 2 years, I should be making more than I do and I should give it up. I bring home about $200 a week, which I use for foodshopping, gas,my taxes, my dr bills,my childrens expenses and things. He makes about $900 a week when he wants to work. I work about 60 hours a week and he works anywhere from 30-40. the problem we are having is he has his own bank account and as far as he is concerned the money he makes is his money. he does pay the electric, cable, and phone. We have no mortgage. I don't ask for his help often but when i do for things like birthdays, xmas, or school shopping, he says it is not his problem that I won't give up my business to make more money and he will not help. Is this right or wrong. I believe that the business I own with a partner will eventually be a money maker but since we are still relatively new, we need to make a name for ourselves in our area. I also believe that when we married it was for better or worse, not just the better. If he was having finacial difficulties, I would help him. Even if it meant leaving my business to go make more. but this is not the case. He makes enough money that he can pay the bills and still have a lot left over for himself. What should I do?

Sheri
Have you sat down and talked to him about this in as non-confrontational a way as possible and asked him why he isn't sticking to what you agreed? If you've tried that and had no success, the next step would be insisting on counseling as a condition of staying in the r'ship.
Sheri