he said "he mite cheat on me"
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he said "he mite cheat on me"
| Thu, 09-30-2004 - 8:18pm |
My boyfriend and i have just had our 1 year anniversary and YES i amm sooo HAPPY and i love him soo much and... i know that hee loves me alot... but the only thing is... there are some things that i always feel like i have never got over... our relationship is one of a kind... we have had tough times with my family accepting him.. and it ended up as us as a secret realtionship which we had to keep from my parents... and he is such a supportive boyfriend... but during this one point in time...(where we barely saw eachother and it was very hard to communicate with eachother...) about 6 months into our relationship... he said he needed to talk to me.... like i mean IM SOO mad at him for this.. like i still dont believe that it was even him and i really ahve a hard time getting over this SOO PLZ HELP ME! k wel neways... he told me that... "hes a guy... he has needs... and that... he gets horny .." or wutever n then hes like... so u want too stay with eachother accepting that "i mite cheat on you?" o do u want to break up... and i said... i wanted too stay with him even though he mite cheat on me... i mean... what does this mean... i could never get this out of my head...i mean... wasnt i enuff for him... what is he thinking in his head... does he have another girl in mind... does he realy love me... during our six months together... we have had the most amazing times togetheer n grew soo fond of eachother... though it was hard for us to be in such an odd situation with my parents... we always put that behind and enjoyed eachothers company n loved one another unconditionally... but wen he asked me this... i totally felll apart... i had like nothing to say and all i could doo was cry... but i didnt cry in front of him... i was too in shock to even like react... well neways... ive always had this in the back of my mind and it has always bothered me becuase i wanted to know what he was thinking when he said this and why he said it... i asked him bout it couple days ago and he said he didnt know why... and that he doesnt even remember why... n that i should forget bout it because he loves me n that hes stupid for even saying it... BUT i really wanna knowww why he said it... and i want a good reason... we've talked bout it lots but like i never seemed satisfied with the answers because he just gueesses why he could of... but i want to know why... plz help me.. why am i going crazy like this... i love him soo much and i just want too know how to solve this.. and i want to forget bout it... i know hes faithful to me n he totally is and always will be... i know that... but he was different person earlier in the relationship and i want to know why he said it... do u know any reason to why he may have said this... plz help meee forget this n forgive him so i can move on without remembering what he said to me and cry every nite wondering why ...
thanks
~Princessa

Why didnt you confront him on this when he said it?/i dont beleive that you were in shock, or had to wait awhile to get mad about this all of a sudden. What he said was rude, inconsiderate and a cop out. Basically, he is saying that he doent value your relationship enough to remain faithful...even thru the rough times. What does this say about him? Well, it dont speak to highly of his character- thats for sure....By him saying that, I take it has his way of warning you that if there are more times like that, or basically anything a little rough, he'll bail. Or, he wonmt want to be held responsible for what he does. Either way, I wouldnt want to be with someone like that.
Good luck,
So your boyfriend told you he might cheat - you know what that means? it means he might cheat. Period. No hidden messages, nothing to think about. Most women would have dumped him because if he really cared about you, it wouldn't matter to him if you aren't able to see each other all the time, it wouldn't matter how horny he is, he would be faithful.
I would ditch this loser and find someone your family likes that way you can have a normal relationship and not have to hide it. Sometimes when your friends or family don't like a guy, they can see the guy for what he really is, which is a loser.
You say you have secretive relationship from your parents, right? aren't there plenty of times you can't be with your boyfriend since your parent don't know you 2 are together... what do you think he does while you 2 aren't together? do you think he just sits around waiting.... no, he is probably out there dating another girl or at least looking for another girl. You are way too young to put up with this!
thanks for ur help...
Even though you probably ARE going to stay with him, let me just say that I'm sure you are a really great girl and deserve respect and trust and a guy that DOESN'T intend to cheat. You should want more for yourself because you deserve it.
Good luck.
1)He does not really love you and does not value your relationship enough to keep it in his pants. He may say he loves you, he may love spending time with you and seeing you. But he does not really love you, and he knows this.
2)Another reason a guy would say this is because you are not giving him what he wants sexually. This frustrates him and he thinks by threatening to cheat, you'll do what he wants. I can understand why you'd want to stay with this guy despite what he said, I the same thing. (You love him, you don't think he really would, you can't imagine not being with him.) BUT, don't do what I did and stay in the relationship, it hurts a whole lot worse the longer you hang on, and in the end you'll regret that you stayed with a guy like that.
Like I said this is something I learned the hard way.
~Princessa
And...I'm sorry but you might want to practice saying "You were right" to your family, because they care about you enough to know what's really going on. And if you think they don't know you are still seeing him, I'm pretty sure you are wrong. They aren't stupid. Just remember this: Is this guy worth getting hurt, getting cheated on, making you look like a fool and lie to everyone who REALLY loves you?
Edited 10/2/2004 2:08 am ET ET by lynmusic
A relationship is about true love, faith, truth and being there for each other.
Someone who cheats (or might be cheating) is not ready for a serious relationship.