He said he needed space

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Registered: 09-24-2004
He said he needed space
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Fri, 09-24-2004 - 4:56pm
My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years and recently he told me he needed some space. He says he wants to marry me in the near future but right now he needs to be on his own. This means he can date anyone and do anything he pleases. I am so in love with this man, and I would marry him tomorrow if he'd ask me. He says he wants to remain friends during this time period, and he wouldn't give me a time frame. It's been a month and I can't seem to move on and date other men because I am so wrapped up into him. Am I kidding myself to think that he will come back to me, and to think that he really does want to marry me.
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Fri, 09-24-2004 - 8:10pm
I have a question for you. You said, he can date anyone and do anything he pleases -- is he? I think that makes a big difference. The way it sounds to me is that he wants to marry you but before he does he wants to date around and be with other women. (Maybe that is not true, that is why I asked that question.) Anyway, it does sound like he wants to marry you and will but I think the bigger concern is that he broke up with you to have some space beforehand. Marriage is a big committment and when you are married, there is no such thing as taking a break and going out to date other women and all that. So, I would be weary that maybe he is not marriage material. Don't disrespect yourself by letting your feelings of love take over. You are worth being treated in a way that you deserve. If he just needs a break to re-evaluate his feelings, or whatever, fine. If he needs a break to get with a bunch of girls before he settles down with you - you don't need him. But that is my opinion only!