He said "I need a break"
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He said "I need a break"
| Mon, 12-08-2003 - 11:18pm |
5 weeks ago I met a guy through a friend because he asked if she knew anyone that he could meet? he just wanted to find someone he could spend time with and love. We liked each other alot right away and after the first week, we spent everyday together for the next three weeks. He came on strong from the beginning. Flowers, phone calls, declarations, he came to my house everyday, initiated phone calls several times a day, insisted this was just not infatuation and he wanted to take further steps in developing a relationship. Said he wanted to take care of me, etc. After four weeks we went a a short trip together to visit his family...he became aware of some serious problems with his ex and kids(they were moving with no place to go, unplanned relocation etc.) he still wanted to go on the trip, but it was cut short and he dropped me off at home and said he'd call after he picked up the kids and figured out what was going on. He never called - the next day I went to his house to see if he and the kids wanted to go to breakfast and he wouldn't answer the door or my calls, finally telling me that he was in a really bad mood and didn't want to talk to anyone and that I was making it worse. Since then a week ago, he has told me that he doesn't want to stop the relationship, but it was going too fast, he feel claustrophobic and that he needs space. He says his feelings haven't changed, but he needs a break. He won't answer my calls, but tells me he will call me-I just don't know when that will be. My question is: does he want to break up and just doesn't want to tell me? or should I not contact him at all and let him come back to me - which I might add I have not been successful at doing. Need advice...

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my boyfriend recently realized that he needed a little break. we tried to have one, but it didn't happen, because when we see each other in person, we just can't ignore each other for long. we still acted the same so the "break" went on for a day or two. then i couldn't stand it any longer, because its not a break, its just a pretense... things didn't make sense to me.
finally we ended our old relationship, but since we are in love and couldn't break up, he suggested that we start over. so basically we are giving us a second chance, this time we are not gonna be with each other 24/7 and spoil the excitement.
tonight i had a piano recital. he showed up, and i don't think i've ever appreciated him more. i realized that i can't expect him to do anything. i can only thank him when he does something for me.
As much as I feel your frustration, there's nothing you can do. As difficult as it is, I'd try to go out with my friends and have some semblance of a good time. Why sit and pine away for him? The holidays are coming up and I think he's being mean and controlling by not telling you where you stand. He either wants your companionship or he doesn't...but it's not fair that he has you on a string like this.
Edited 12/13/2003 3:52:58 AM ET by bluewrite
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