he says he can't let himself be happy...
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he says he can't let himself be happy...
| Thu, 08-28-2008 - 4:36pm |
We've been dating for 10 months. He's the best thing that's happened to me, and he says the same thing about me. I know he loves me a lot, but two days ago, he broke up with me.
He's been through a whole lot in his life (he's 11 years older than I am), including bad childhood experiences, hurtful relationships,

The only person I see not understanding this situation is you, singerkat.
He doesn't want what you want, he can't give you what you want, and yet you WANT to go back into this relationship and eventually get burned from it. How can you "KNOW" he desperately wants kids when he's told you that he doesn't want to take the plunge again? You know, a lot of people out there love their nieces and nephews and younger cousins very fervently but still do not have kids themselves.
Singerkat, you have to listen to a man when he tells you that he's not what you want. You are still young, you should be with someone who is sure of you, ready for a relationship, and excited about the same future.
This is not the man for you, and it's not because of you, it's because of him. Please believe him.
You can't make him see the light...that is his choice. He has told you how he feels, but you don't want to accept that. You are seeing the relationship through the visions you have in your head of what it might be, not what it is.
As long as he believes he can't let himself be happy he will not be and nothing you can do will change that. Let him go, heal from this, get on with your life and find someone that is emotionally healthy and wants a relationship with you, this guy doesn't.
It is a shame that he cant let himself go and just have some fun and love again.
"There are a lot of things that he feels he can't live up to with me."
He seems to see the writing on the wall - that the two of you would break up due to differences in what you both want out of life.