he says hes cheating on me 4 my own good

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Registered: 08-05-2004
he says hes cheating on me 4 my own good
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Thu, 08-05-2004 - 2:25pm
My husband has already slept with 4 single woman on our street and has even written love letters to my friends. He says he still loves me. What should i do? I can probably say that new movie "we dont live here anymore" (dont know if you've heard of it) mirrors my life as seen in this trailer http://www.apple.com/trailers/warner_independent_pictures/wedontlivehereanymore.html. After watching this, you will realize the seriousness of my situation.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 2:34pm

Your husbandsinfedilities continue because you let himthink that it is okay. What have you done to eliminate this situation?


It seems likme you have one of two choices...You can either stay, and continue to let him carry on this behavior that demoralizes himself, you and the relationship- not to mention the disrespect and complete humiliation he must cause you and your family.Or, you can leave and move on with your life and eventually meet someone that is going to care and respect you the way you deserve.


Its up to you.


 

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Registered: 06-03-2004
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 4:31pm
how could he posibly have any resonable exuse to say say it's for your own good that he's cheating on you ??? is he that bad in bed that he needs to practice with others to satisfy you ?????
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 4:41pm
Well, you can't change the fact that he believes he's entitled to sleep around.

So the question is not "how can I make him stop, or how can I make him change?" It's "do I want to live with a husband and in a marriage where he sleeps around?"

Erin

quickblade14@hotmail.com

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 5:13pm
I wouldn't stay married to a man who didn't believe in fidelity in marriage.
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Registered: 08-04-2004
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 5:50pm
That is the most obsurd thing I have ever heard! I don't know you as far as; how long have you been married, do you have kids, your career, etc... All I know is that there is no reasonable explaination for your husbands behavior. If he truly loved you (in every sense of the word) He would not be doing, what he is doing. You don't deserve to be treated this way and humiliated. I was married once, for 8 long years. My ex-husband use to cheat on me left and right. There was no reasonable excuse for it, because I satisfyed him in every way and I am an attractive intelligent woman! The only excuse he had was; he was a sex fiend and obviously didn't respect me enough or love me enough. Yes, I loved him very much and tryed to make things work; but there comes a time when you reach a breaking point and realize that you can't take it anymore. You have to think of yourself and your happiness. Get your self esteem back, take charge! Get out of that mess, its not even a marriage anymore. Trust me, it hurts to divorce; you get scared, you think your whole little world is crumbling, you think "what am I going to do?" I've been there, done it and survived. I started a whole new life for myself. I went back to school and earned a degree. I also re-discoverd myself again and started doing things that I always wanted to do, but never could. FREEDOM! Just pick up that head, stand straight and tall and put your foot down. You can do this! Don't be a victim! Get a new life!