He says he's not sure he loves me

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Registered: 04-23-2007
He says he's not sure he loves me
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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 1:30pm

My boyfriend and i have been together for these last 2 years and 1 month. I'm 19 and he's 20. We are very very close, and love each other's company and going out together and with each other's families. We attend different collages, and have different friends although we go out with each others' friends together once in a while. the thing is, my Bf has a lot of friends on the whole, but none are very very close, except for a guy from his school. Last week after we made love, he asked if i felt that he truly loved me. I was baffled by the question. He is sitting for some very important examinations and he's very stressed out lately. He said that he doesn't feel confident that he really truly loves me, he is doubting that i'm the one for him. He is afraid that he grew so acustomed to our being together that he is feeling confused, and is afraid that he may be afraid in leaving me as he may take our relationship very serious and feel that it is his responsability, our being together. He says he misses me and enjoys being with me.

I know it's confusing. wot should i do? I told him if he wants a break, go out with his friends maybe other girls, but he said not for now. I dont know wot to think. pls help. wot should i do? I love him a lot and believe that he is my man.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 3:15pm

Welcome to the board x_lijen_x,


Since he wants things to stay the same right now, don't change anything. If he wants to take a break in the future, allow it to happen. He is the one that is questioning the relationship which in turn pretty much gives him all the power/control at this point.


It is normal for people his(your) age when they have been in a long term relationship to begin wondering if they are missing something by not getting to date around.


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