He say's No..............why?
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He say's No..............why?
| Wed, 09-22-2004 - 1:18am |
My bf and I have been together for almost 2 years, living together for about a year. I know that he loves me but our sex life is basically non-existence and I have a high sex drive. Everytime we are together(whether laying on the couch or in bed)he wants to cuddle, but as soon as I make a gesture or goofing around by touching him or trying to kiss his neck or something, he'll say "no" or "stop" I just want to lay with you. But it's everytime. I don't think he's cheating on me, but I just don't know what the deal is. It's really affecting our whole relationship. What do I do?? Please help!

A doctor's visit may be a good idea to have various hormone levels checked.
i quit enjoying sex basically. at the beginning it was a way to bring us closer together. now we have that closeness w/o the sex. i wanted to make sure our relationship wasn't based on sex. AND i felt guilty every time i slept with him. i was brought up in a very Christian lifestyle and always taught that sex before marriage was wrong. i did it anyway, but every single time after we finished i would (and still do) cry. part of that i chalk up to hormones and the other part i think is guilt. guilt that i wasn't supposed to do what i did, and guilt that i didn't enjoy it and just wanted it to be over. i'm afraid to just come out and tell my bf this. i want to tell him that i don't want to have sex anymore until we're married. i brought it up jokingly once and he said that if that's what i really wanted he would do it, but he didn't think he could go w/o sex for that long, b/c HE has a very high sex drive. i would much rather snuggle and give little loving kisses than to hop in the sack now. that's just the way i show my love for him. i would never cheat. i just feel more comfortable with him than w/ anyone else and i don't feel like i should have to have sex to keep our relationship alive.
i am curious as to how old you and your bf are. men reach they're sexually peak in their mid to late 20s (i believe) and women don't reach their's until their 30s. i think you need to talk to him. tell him how you feel and get his thoughts on it. work something out together. you'll never know what is truly wrong until you ask. good luck!
it would help to know how old you both are, and if your BF is on any meds. also - has it been this way from the beginning or is this a new development -if this is new, then did something happen in his life lately (job loss, money problems, etc).