he says this...what should i do to help?
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he says this...what should i do to help?
| Thu, 08-26-2004 - 9:13pm |
my guy right now is under a lot of pressure and drowning in problems. i wanna help him but he wont tell me his problems cause he doesnt want to talk about it. he wants me to give him some space, some time to fix his life so that when the right time comes, we'll be ready for our future. what he wants is me to leave him alone cause he needs this time for himself. he said that i dont know what he is going thru and that i should let him solve his problem by himself. it hurts me seeing and knowing that he is not at ease. do you still think that i can save what we have (if we still have something) or i should just let it go and be thankful for what we shared? thank you so much

Life always throws you problems. You don't just step away from a r'ship in order to deal with them...you work on them in the context of the r'ship. What if you were married? Would he expect you to give him space then?
The guy I'm involved with is going through some major difficulties also (recent deaths of his father and of a good friend, and financial issues), and he acknowledged to me that he would LOVE to run away, but he's not. He's staying in touch and talking to me about things, even though it's hard for him. That's the kind of guy I want to be with. I'm not saying that's the only acceptable way to deal with things, but it's up to you whether you can deal with his way.
Sheri
If he is asking you to let it go then I think you should let it go. If he says point blank that he needs his space, then you need to give it to him. Guys aren't that complicated when they express their needs. Don't try to save him or change him.
sarita