Is he scared?

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Is he scared?
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Sat, 01-12-2008 - 5:02pm

Hello everyone. I have been lurking on here for a while and see that have great advice. I need some advice. Here's some background. I was engaged to a man that is 35. I am 30. We

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 5:47pm

A lot of people will call this guy a "waffler" and say that you're wasting your time. I agree. An "on-an-off" relationship, even if most of it was "on", is not a marriage-bound relationship. When you get married you can't simply break up and see other people when things get rough.

This guy is a total ass. Look at what he's doing with you to this poor kid he's dating. He has no concept of boundaries or respect for women.

I realize you spent nine years with this guy but isn't it time you get your life together and find someone who will be a stable, committed, and consistent part of your life rather than effing around with someone who plays these endless nonsensical games? This is a really childish relationship - go figure, he's also dating a child. I'm guessing that he and his friends have a lot more in common with a 19 year old girl than a mature capable woman.

Also a guy who puts on a new face between you and his friends is, at most, insincere and disingenuous.

A break-up, and I mean a permanent one not just you waiting around for him to start chasing you again, has been a long time coming for you two. You should leave before this guy makes off with the last of your dignity.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 9:55pm
I agree with eggbertshootsfire and want to add- why would you want to be with someone with a temper? To you want to be married to someone who yells at you? Do you want to raise children with someone like that?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 11:55pm

Welcome to the board vanillasmoothie21,


You deserve better.