he scares himself

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Registered: 02-26-2004
he scares himself
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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 6:56pm
I've been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months now. He got divorced about a year and a half before he met me, and we've been having an off and on serious relationship for a while. He's deathly afraid of serious relationships still, though he's the one who keeps moving the relationship into its serious moments. Recently we decided that we should stop sleeping at each other's places because he feared the relationship was getting too serious again, but we still continue to see each other as often as before with the only exception of not being together while we sleep. I'm determined to not give up because we still want to be together, but how can I help him not fear being close to me?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 02-28-2004 - 3:10am
you can't help him. it's in his head and he has to figure it out...

the more he figures it out on his own the better. you are not his therapist.