Is he serious about our relationship

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Is he serious about our relationship
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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 7:50pm
I have been seeing this guy for almost two years. He has not yet took me to meet his family or took me to see where he lives. I offered twice to go over and he makes up an excuse. Our relationship is long distant of 45 minutes. He has two children with someone else but I have every reason to believe that they no longer see each other anymore. Our relationship has been off and on the whole time. I really love him and want to make things work but I don't want to waste my time either. I feel as if he doesn't take me serious or doesn't love me. I have reasons to believe that he's not cheating on me but then I'm not with him all the time. I see him once or twice a week and that's mostly at night. He owns a business and is extremely busy..he doesn't really have enough time for me. What should I do?
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Registered: 03-03-2004
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 8:32pm
I guess the only thing I can say is that maybe you need to have a talk with him. I guess I would just ask him straight-up if he has any serious intentions concerning you, now or ever. I think you've been extremely patient. I'm not sure you both have the same expectations for the relationship, however. Talking about it might get you out of limbo, one way or the other. It's been two years, it sounds like fairly consistently, he owes you that much, I think. Best wishes!
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 9:06pm
Married men simply don't have time to make their girlfriends #1. And I strongly suspect you are the girlfriend and he has a wife and probably lives with her and his children. I mean c'mon....you've been dating for almost two years and have never been to his place???? BIG RED FLAG!!!! You've never met anyone in his family???? SECOND BIG RED FLAG. Honey, you are wasting your time so take off those blinders and take a good hard look at what is really going on. Then find yourself a real boyfriend who would be happy to make you his #1.

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 04-11-2004 - 5:19am
yes ths post make a lot of sense! you see him only once or twice a week, at night? do you actually "go out" in public, to restaurants, movies, parties, or is this mostly sex in your home?