Is he still cheating

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Registered: 04-24-2008
Is he still cheating
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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 10:35am
i ve been with this guy for almost 4 years,and i recently found out he has been cheating on me.I found messages on his phone to and from his 'other girlfriend', this is a long-distance relationship by the way..........When i first confonfronted him he lied about it nd told me about some other chick that he cheated with, a few hours later he came clean and said i should not worry about it, and said he did it because i had been giving him a cold shoulder. A year ago i found out he wanted to marry me,but he never proposed all he says is he CARES ABOUT ME ya right...........
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 10:57am

If he cheats on you after four years together, can you really expect him to stay faithful within the next forty years?

Don't think about that one too long, the answer is no. Get rid of him and find someone who wants to be with only you no matter what. No matter what history you have together, it's not worth sacrificing loyalty and faithfulness. This is a bad fish, throw it back.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 11:02am

I am sorry to say it sounds as though this man cannot be trust. He lies, makes excuses for his behavior, and seems to make promises which have no foundation. Focus on his actions, not his words. If someone truly wanted to marry you, you'd be married by now. Set high standards for yourself and the relationship and keep to them. I suggest you see a counselor in your area to get more clarity on this situation and also the support you need in making healthy choices for yourself.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 12:33pm

Welcome to the board mmmmmm2008,


I agree with the advice you've been given. I just wanted to mention this:


::and said he did it because i had been giving him a cold shoulder


So he's blaming you, he's telling you that it's

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 12:47pm
It is time to get out and figure out why you have been with this guy for so long. Don't spend too much time wondering why and what he did wrong. Get control yourself or you will continue to pick jerks.