he still has feelings for her
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| Sat, 03-06-2004 - 4:59pm |
background is I've been dating Paul(he's 32) for 9 months and it's been going well up until now. We were talking about crushes and he told me that he had a crush on this chick, Amy, he used to see all the time at the University and he thinks she's so amazing. He said he pined for her seriously for many many months and he finally got the kahookies to ask her out and she turned him down. He was completely devastated over it from what he says.
So what's the problem? I find out she lives on the same floor in his apartment building. Then I asked him if he still had feelings for her and he said (without hesistating) Yes, she still has an affect on him and when he sees her he still longs for her sometimes. Clearly he's not over her, but he's in a relationship with me now and I'm not so keen on keeping this relationship going if he's got a spot in his heart for another woman he still has feelings for. And he has a hard time talking about her too. He won't open up very much.
when I think about it a crush is usually a short lived experience and you move on. Clearly he's way beyond having a crush. This is going on 2 years now.
I don't want to be in a relationship where she's got a piece of his heart. I don't need competition, I want a relationship with a guy that's completely emotionally available.
Am I missing something here??? What do you think????
Seattle

Carrie