He told me he has feelings for his ex gf

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Registered: 07-10-2003
He told me he has feelings for his ex gf
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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 3:38pm

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 4:04pm

Welcome to the board eileenk516,


I am sorry this is happening to you. My advice since he said he was confused and needed time is to let him know that you are ready to be in serious relationship with him and he can let you know when he is ready to do the same. I agree with your statement that if you lost him this easily than perhaps you never really had him.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 4:59pm

Hi eileenk,


All this didn't just happen because they spent the day together....he happened because he's been continuing to talk to her, share with her and those 'sweet' text msgs etc are stroking his ego and making him feel good about himself.


::Things have been bad with us lately because I found out he was lying to me about certain things and having an email relationship with someone from another state during the time that we weren't "serious" in his mind.


In addition to you and her, he's also got another female on the line via email.

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Registered: 05-25-2007
Fri, 05-25-2007 - 11:53pm

Eileen

I'm writing to you to let you know that I too once was with the same guy you were. He cheated on me, lied to me, and many other things. You will be better off without him.
Good Luck

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Registered: 07-10-2003
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 4:55pm
I just saw this post from May.... it's now November.
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Registered: 11-17-2007
Fri, 11-23-2007 - 6:51pm

Eileen

You responded to a post that I had posted in May and asked me if I was with the same guy that you were describing. My answer is yes. I am no longer with him and also have NO desire to be with him. Therefore, I have nothing to gain from telling you the honest truth. He has cheated on me twice and lied to me over and over. He has lied so many times that he forgets what he has said and has to deny that he ever said that. He has also was meeting with and talking with (on the internet) other women during our relationship. He is very caring and charming when you are with him. He is very good looking. He will do to you what he has done to me. Broken my heart and screwed up my dreams.

I have read your other posts and would tell you that it will get easier as time goes by. Better to deal with the hurt now rather than for many more years. You situation is unfortunate and I hope you take care of you. I'm not here to bash him (although I could give you a lot of dirt), but I am here to tell you, for your sake, to move on. Nobody deserves to be lied to and cheated on over and over.

My screen name has changed, but I am still the same person who wrote to you in May. Please just know that this is coming from someone who has experienced a relationship with the same person you have and would not want to see anyone go through the same thing. Let me know how things go. Best of Luck.