He Told Me He Love Me....

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Registered: 01-05-2004
He Told Me He Love Me....
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Fri, 01-23-2004 - 3:45am
I just got into a relationship that I have been in before, twice actually in the past 4 years...meaning this guy I'm with now I've been with before two times in the past...anyways, a few weeks ago he told me he 'likes me, not just iono anymore' and a few nights ago he told me he 'love me'...

..I remember him saying those words before and two days later he told me he just wanted to be friends...seeing him confess those words again...just brings back the memories...the thing different about this time is that we're actually having 'real discussions'..what I mean by 'real' is that..we didnt stray off topic and we actually talked..it seems over the past 4 years we've grown to listen and communicate with one another ...

..but when he told me he 'love me' now that we're back together again, I couldnt bring myself to return those words...at least not yet...I mean, in a way, this relationship is still quite new...and when I tell any guy those three words 'I Love You' I want to say it because I truly do, you know what I mean? I don't know what to do..can anyone help me? I know I shouldn't say those word If I'm not sure yet...its just seemed that, what happened between us in the past is keeping me from returning those words now...or maybe I'm just scared of the changes it'll bring by saying those words.....even more scared that what happend then will happen again,I don't know...I just feel like he's expecting me to return those words next time I see him..and I don't know If I can yet...anyone know what I should do? Or how to overcome what ever is preventing me from saying those words back to him...because I do have feelings for him and I hate it that I can't return those words back to him...I just dont want to get hurt again..wat should I do?

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Registered: 09-26-2003
Fri, 01-23-2004 - 11:02am

You should never say those three words back umless you absolutley mean it.Would you want him to say those if he were having doubts(you must remember how it felt)?NO, proably not


At the same time, know that just because he hurt you in the past, doesnt mean it will happen that way again.No one can make promises about the future, becuse no one knows what