is he trying to tell me to GET LOST
Find a Conversation
is he trying to tell me to GET LOST
| Tue, 10-12-2004 - 5:58pm |
Sorry...another question on same relationship
Been dating 2 1/2 mths...(he just asked me to be exclusive 2 wks ago) He is in law school which I know keeps him busy. He has never been good about calling...I almost always do...and then he calls back. This sat we went out for about 6 hrs but he had to go home early to work on hw...that was thrown on him on wed (he told me about earlier) On the date he said something about knowing where my new place is going to be so I can't get away from him...at the end of the date he told me to call him the next day(could that just been a way to end the date comfortably??) I did call him but his phone went right to Voice mail (so it was probably off, i also called him late so he could've been sleeping) But its tues. and he hasnt called me back. Although on the VM i didnt say to, just that I'd talk to him later. I also started a new job on monday and he didn't call to even ask me how it went. Since we are now b/f g/f shouldn't he call me to end things. Do you think he wants to end things and is hoping i just stop calling. Anytime i call he always returns my calls. He always says im beautiful and he always holds my hand (i know this doesnt mean anything) What should I do...I hate waiting for him to call it is to stressful. Now that we are exclusive would it be okay if i call him. Are there many of you out there (women) who generally always call their busy BF's. How do you guys feel. Any advice about what to do would be helpful.
Been dating 2 1/2 mths...(he just asked me to be exclusive 2 wks ago) He is in law school which I know keeps him busy. He has never been good about calling...I almost always do...and then he calls back. This sat we went out for about 6 hrs but he had to go home early to work on hw...that was thrown on him on wed (he told me about earlier) On the date he said something about knowing where my new place is going to be so I can't get away from him...at the end of the date he told me to call him the next day(could that just been a way to end the date comfortably??) I did call him but his phone went right to Voice mail (so it was probably off, i also called him late so he could've been sleeping) But its tues. and he hasnt called me back. Although on the VM i didnt say to, just that I'd talk to him later. I also started a new job on monday and he didn't call to even ask me how it went. Since we are now b/f g/f shouldn't he call me to end things. Do you think he wants to end things and is hoping i just stop calling. Anytime i call he always returns my calls. He always says im beautiful and he always holds my hand (i know this doesnt mean anything) What should I do...I hate waiting for him to call it is to stressful. Now that we are exclusive would it be okay if i call him. Are there many of you out there (women) who generally always call their busy BF's. How do you guys feel. Any advice about what to do would be helpful.

I don't understand why he would want to commit to you and then blow you off.Talk to him. Let him know that you would like him to call you and to show interest in you as a person. Is he curious about what you do, your work, your hobbies, your day to day activities or does he want someone who will be devoted to him only when he is available.
Maybe the stress isn't worth it. You might be able to find someone who has time for a real relationship. If he wants to commit to Law school, fine but he shouldn't string you along.
Law school is real busy and I agree that if he were thoughtful he should have called to see how your first day on the new job went. He didn't, so take note.
Also, take note that he is, I'm sure, very busy with law school. Very busy.
If you are exclusive (BF/GF), then you should feel free to call him and leave a VM (or call till you can talk with him) that says to call you when he has a chance. Heck, you could even tell him you miss him and want to hear from him (new relationships are great - enjoy!).
I don't believe (from what you post), that he is trying to tell you to get lost. I suspect he is busy, you are probably busy. If you want to talk with him tell him just that. If you don't hear back after that, then maybe your concerns are more justified.
I wish you the best.
Relax a little. He's busy, very busy and it doesn't mean that he doesn't like you, love you or that he's blowing you off. I agree with lled2, call and tell him you miss him.
Carrie