He wants to

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-29-2003
He wants to
2
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 9:44am
I have been seeing Steve for about 2 months now. Everything has been wonderful. Yesterday we got into a little disagreement. Well, it gave me a huge headache, so when we went out to dinner I was not very talkative. I didn't say much and he took that as I was pouting. He started arguing with me about it and I insisted that it was simply that I had a headache and he kept saying that I was lying to him. Well, the entire situation escalated into a huge argument. He finally wound up saying that he was going to treat our relationship like every other relationship he has had. None of those relationships worked out. So I think it is extremely unfair for him to say that. I don't know how to handle this situation. He said that he will be taking things slower and not thinking about any future plans with me because I lied to him. I didn't lie. I had a headache. Our disagreement earlier was over $13.00. It was so silly to even argue about. I don't know why he would act like this. Any suggestions?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2004
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 11:45am
When a man or woman starts fights over silly things the majority of the time it means they want an excuse to get out of the relationship. Just like you said that it was over a silly argument and look at how much he let it escalate into saying that he was going to treat your relationship like all the others that didn't work out. He is basically telling you that he is giving up on the relationship so I think you should do the same. If this man really cared, he wouldn't hurt your feelings by saying such things. Just be careful and be ready for him to tell you his true feelings at any time.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 5:46pm
Sounds to me that he's looking for a reason to push you away, change the status of the relationship, a reason to make you wrong, etc.


Carrie