He wants to be friends??

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-09-2003
He wants to be friends??
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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 12:46am
My boyfriend of two years just told me that he would like to take a step away from our relationship and work on our friendship. I feel like it is just an easy way of breaking up but I'm not sure. We have a long distance relationship and it has been hard on us. I am graduating from college in 2 months and he wants to "work on the friendship" until I get out of school. I'm not really sure what it will solve but when a guy says that is he breaking up or just asking for space. Please help.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 8:06am

I think he is saying that the Long Distance relationship isn't working for him and that he wants to put it on "hold" until after you graduate.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-17-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 11:30am
I am not so sure that it is because of the long distance relationship that he wants space. I mean doesn't he already have enough considering she is not there????

So like a break is like a chicken's way of saying that he doesn't want to be with you anymore.

And you should cut him off. Then we will see what chicken does when you dissappear.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 12:35pm

I beleive that a solid relationship needs to be built on a solid freindship.Having said that, I think that with the long distance between the two of you, he may not be feeling that closeness rightnow, and wants to work on that...


Take the next 2 months to work on the friendship and concentrate on getting school done and staying close to freinds you may have lost touch with..stay busy.When you get out of school and he wants to continue things and be more than freinds...than go for it..will you still be there, or available?thats the chance that he has decided to take...


Best wishes,


 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-09-2003
Fri, 03-12-2004 - 12:04am
Thank you all for all of your advise I will ponder upon it and hopefully the coping will be better.
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Fri, 03-12-2004 - 10:29am
'I feel like it is just an easy way of breaking up but I'm not sure.'

Then why don't you ask him? 'Friends' should be honest with each other and it isn't fair for you to try to read his mind and possibly put your life on hold while waiting for him to figure it out, all the while he may be dating others.