He wants to divorce and still date??

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Registered: 03-24-2008
He wants to divorce and still date??
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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:44am

This is long...I have been married to my second husband for 3 years.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 7:44am

Can I ask why you really wanted to marry this guy? You don't seem suited to one another, and I wonder how many of these problems you had while you were dating. There shouldn't be this much trouble or strife in a marriage that's only three years old.

If you know someone in their heart doesn't really want to get married then it's not wise to marry them. Your "husband" doesn't like this role he's playing in your life and he wants to go back to the relationship he is comfortable with, which unfortunately doesn't seem like enough for you. I don't know why you thought that living in separate places while being "married" was going to work. It's like you're both trying to please yourselves first and foremost, you with being married and he with maintaining distance between one another. You just aren't a very good team.

I'm not sure if this one can be saved with such vast differences. I really don't think it can, if he's more interested in putting himself first. You both should see a marriage counselor immediately - divorce and living separately are not the answers until you know for sure that this isn't what you want.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:20pm

Welcome to the board sueb69,


Well, this is an odd situation.

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Registered: 03-24-2008
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 5:41pm

Thank you for you response.