He wasn't ready for it...
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He wasn't ready for it...
| Tue, 12-30-2003 - 6:47am |
Last night my boyfriend(ex) told me that we needed to "talk". That could only mean one thing to a girl. I went over there and he said,"I thought I was ready, but I'm not ready for this." It took him 11 months to now figure that out. The thing that gets me is that we never had one fight or even an arguement about anything. We were really compatible for eachother. I spent Christmas with him and his family and we even exchanged presents. I had no idea this was coming, what the hell happened?!?! If anyone has any light to spread I could really use it. Thanks for listening.

I'm very sorry that this has happened. Best of luck to you.
The only thing you can do is talk with him and see if you can find out what it is that he is doing.
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Unfortuntaely, in many relationships, some people are not able or willing to shrae their feelings with their partner completely. Your boyfriend clearly was having doubts, upset and other feelings that he did not let you know about. (It is also possible he was not fully aware of them himself. Sometimes these fears, doubts and issues are suppressed and then they come up suddenly as a desire to "get out".) This does not mean that he does not love you, but that he has inner conflicts and issues that he needs to work out. He may not be aware of what is going on inside or how to handle it.
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That may be the case with him. I am sorry he isn't being clear with you but he may not be clear himself. Did you ask him to clarify for you what happened so you can get some closyre here?