is he willing to work things out?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2004
is he willing to work things out?
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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 7:51am
i've met a guy online which i fell inlove so bad he is the kind of guy that i should say i wanna spend the rest of my life with.. when he came here in our place like 9000 miles away from his place we had a good time we travel around asia,but i didnt know during those times i had taken him for granted and now he's back there at home and we're talking about the problem.he said he wanted time and space and i gave him that but i told him how sorry i am for everything that i caused him and i wanna have another chance to work things out,and i told him how much i love him and how much i wanna spend the rest of my life with him,i love him so dearly.he told me how much he loves me and how much he wants to be with me but he said he wants to think things first and he even told me that he doesnt want to have an inconsiderate girlfriend, i regret the things i've done to him i really do.and i dont know if there are any chance for us to work things out cause he said he doesnt know if there is. but i just cant understand why he doesnt know, if he wants to work things out and he wants to be with me he should give a chance on our relationship.i do understand his side cause he invested a lot of time,money and even his work just to be with me and it isnt easy for him, but i just need him to understand me too that this isnt easy for me and i am sincerely sorry.he told me that if we continue with our relationship its gonna be a bigger risk and huger committment but as i look at it.if you love someone you'll do anything just to be with that someone and make things perfect AND i do believe that everybody deserves a second chance.i dont wanna lose him and i love him so much. i dont know what to do and i am so lonely and depressed like hell... please help me..
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2003
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 9:44am
Did you read the other replies and think about what we told you. He is expecting a lot from you and manipulating you. It is not your job to play tourguide for him and he needs to commnunicate his wants to you. He didn't and he blames you for not reading his mind. Do you see that or are you just concentrating on doing anything not to be lonely?

Why not concentrate on dating people who live near you and don't have strange expectations and conditions in a relationship?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2004
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 2:07pm
he is not blaming me for anything its just that i took him for granted while he's still here especially sexually and i just wanna have another chance to prove to him that i could do more better and work things out.i am not doing evrything just because i dont wanna be lonely but because i love him so much and i want to spend the rest of my life with him.i have read and understand your replies and i am thankful for everything...now i am just too depressed and doesnt know what to do. cause everyday we talked and he told me that he is always thinking about me and he loves me so much i am so happy to hear those from him but i am sad in the other hand because i know in reality our relationship is still at break and i just dont know whats gonna happen but i am still waiting for the time that he's gonna say that he wants to work things out... thank you so much ciao gina i really appreciate this all...