He Won't Make Time For Me!!!
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He Won't Make Time For Me!!!
| Sat, 05-19-2007 - 9:24pm |
I have this boyfriend of only 2 months. He will not make time for me. He's a cop so I understand that his schedule is hectic, but I feel so depressed and sad. I was just starting to fall in love with him. I know he's not cheating on me because he's not the cheating type. I have talked to him about this and he said that he'll try harder to make our relationship work. That was 4 days ago....and I've barely heard from him (2 minute conversation last night). And by the way---we haven't been on a date since Monday May 7th!!! What would you do in this situation??? Try harder or just dump him and get it over with??? Or am I being unreasonable???

To be honest, it sounds as though he's just not that into you.
Move on.
Welcome to the board jlr1683,
If a guy wants to see you, is all into you, believe me, he WILL make time for you and if this is already happening at the two month mark, that is not a good sign.
I agree with the other posters. It sounds like you were probably starting to have the chemical/bodily changes (actual changes in your brain and in your body's chemistry have been demonstrated in studies) that are what people call "falling in love." When you lose the person you were having this physical reaction to, you often become clinically depressed and sometimes even suicidal. PLEASE, get help if it gets that bad! We can list places for you to call if you like.
When guys are into their job that much, as it sounds as though this guy is from your post, they may not be into having a serious relationship.
I would suggest that you take care of YOU and move on if you are looking for something more than he has to give you.
It seems clear that he's not interested in or ready for the kind of relationship you want. In fact, if you haven't seen him since May 7th that's a long time. He may already be out of the relationship in his mind. It doesn't matter what he says, look at his behavior. He's not there. Don't hold onto a dream or fantasy and above all don't chase after him. The harder you chase, the further he'll run. Let him run. Let him go. Find yourself someone who feels the way you do and wants you as much as you want him. This situation is unhealthy and seems to be a trap for you.
Best wishes,
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