He won't spend time with me

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2008
He won't spend time with me
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Sun, 04-06-2008 - 10:05pm

Hi Everyone,


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2008
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 8:12am
Nekey05 - is it "won't" or "can't"?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 8:20am

Nekey, my hubby chooses jobs which don't take him away from home.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2008
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 1:49pm

Americajin,


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 1:53pm
He placing other things as a priority over you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 5:15pm

Welcome to the board nekey05,


Why would you think you are selfish?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2006
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 5:18pm
The fact that he has decided to go into the national gaurd is a major decision. One of which I think everyone probably deal with differently. Not that its an excuse, but maybe this is how he deals with whats going on. I would address it with him. Tell him that you were hoping to spend more time with him before he leaves - he may not realize that he's putting so much into his work and alienating you.
Unfortunately, the Gaurd is a position which may require him to leave, something you have to be prepared for and willing to accept...are you?