Heart wants to stay...

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Registered: 10-23-2007
Heart wants to stay...
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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 12:21am

But this has gotten so complicated that my head tells me to step back.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:33am

Welcome to the board hunneeb,


I can't say I blame you for wanting to take a HUGE step backwards.


I think this is very smart: "I feel like I should step back and allow him to make some decisions and follow through with them, as well as setting firm boundaries for her."


My best to you.


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Registered: 08-21-2005
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 11:44am

Is he divorced or still married? If he is still married, why isn't he pursuing the divorce?

I think stepping back for a bit is a good idea. He needs to have space to fully get over his last relationship and terminate it once and for all. Space will also give you a break from his Ex tormenting you.

If you are still available down the road, who knows what could happen. But for now, it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship can form with all of the additional stresses.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 12:37pm

Welcome to the board hunneeb,


I don't blame you for wanting to step back at the moment. I think that is the right thing to do. Tell him that you are interested in a relationship with him, but he has to do something about the boundaries with his ex. His ex obviously has some issues.


Why aren't they divorced after two years?

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Registered: 10-23-2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 6:34pm

They are still married, the paperwork has been drawn up since their separation but has not been filed.

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Registered: 07-16-2007
Fri, 10-26-2007 - 5:32am
Yowza! So much drama... so not worth it! I think you are wise to want to take a step back. At the end of the day, you have to look out for your own interests. Perhaps you and your friends should return to a platonic friendship and not see each other as often, until his situation settles down. I'm so sorry you're going through this.