heartbroken

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Registered: 03-28-2007
heartbroken
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Thu, 03-29-2007 - 3:05am

hi since i posted a pretend person to online to speak to my person he has flirted with the person and then lie to me as to when he has been on the internet. he told her he will be free on Wednesday and when I asked him if we will still see each other on Wednesday he got really angry and started stammering making excuses. at the moment it is a long distance relationship so i do not know how many other people he has flirted with in the past and present. he used to say he has never done it and will never do. my intention was to ask him to meet the online person somewhere and go there without him knowing to see how far he would go to know for certain if it was just online chatting.

would the girl in the picture mind you sleeping with someone else?
how many women have you slept with in your life?
have you cheated on her before? Those are 3 questions I asked. he called me and said he sent me an email but i thought i should go to the pretend person email first and this is what he wrote.
>>>>>hi,wel i have never cheated on her before and if she does find out she will be upset about it.she does not want me to sleep around and i do not.i have only slept with 3 women in my entire life and i am a boring guy ,trust me u do not want to meet me at all.how many men have u slept with and who was ur favourate one of them all and why?

THIS IS WHAT HE WROTE TO ME:
>>>lets get married in may at hounslow registra.it will be a small ceremony and if u want we will have a big one in the future if u want one.after we get married we send ur passport to the home office.when it comes back u look for a job something like live in care work in london.u stay with ur sis.lets say u work 4 days then come down for the rest of the week.u keep on doing that until u can drive coz u really need a car down here.the buses r not reliable and sometimes end at 7.

i called him and asked if he meant it he said yes then i said to him can you forsake all others and commit to me he said yes i love you i said what about Makosi(my online name) i have seen her on your page? who is she? he said he did not know, fair enough. i asked has she ever written to you before. he replied never I have never received mail from her. i asked again and he said NO. i felt so angry i started saying the things he wrote to her and the nickname she made for him. he then said he knew it was me all along and he was playing along. but i think he is lying because why say to me you were not on the internet. call me lazy to her when i ask you you say no i do not think you are lazy. answer her mails adn not mine. make the moves to meet her and not me. he could of told me see you on Wednesday if he was playing a game. i told him if you knew it was me you would be praising me not puttine me and our relationship down. saying things like i love my fiancee and i will never cheat on her she is my all. i believe he did not know it was me. i am so hurt i cannot understand my feelings as much as i wanted to be his wife and it will help my status. a man like that i do not know i am still chasing him calling but he is not replying it should be the other way round. do you think he wanted to marry me for true and it was harmless flirting.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: ebonygal871
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 11:27am
He may have wanted to marry you, but not for the right reasons. I don't think he knew it was you. I think at this point you need to stop calling and emaling him and let him make the move to contact you. What he did was wrong and he does know. He just doesn't want to admit it.