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heartbroken & need help
| Fri, 07-23-2004 - 6:53pm |
I have been dating this guy for a year and a half ... everything was going good in the beginning of our relationship and we decided to move in together after only knowing each other for 4 months. After we started living together we started having these fights because we both are stubborn and never like to be wrong. About three weeks ago we ended up getting in this huge fight over the phone because we're doing the whole long distance thing this summer and the next day my boyfriend says that he doesn't want to be with me anymore. I am heartbroken. We still talk a couple of times a week and are planning on going on a date when we get back to school in four weeks to see how everything is. He tells me that he loves me and cares about me a lot and that he wants me to be happy but he doesn't know what he wants right now. I want him back so bad that it hurts. I told him tonight when we talked that I have realized a lot of things about our relationship that I know wouldn't happen again. He said that he knows that our relationship would be different but he doesn't think he can forget about everything that has happen and he doesn't know if he will be happy in a relationship with me. i don't know what I should do. Should I keep telling him how much I want to be back with him or should I keep it cool for the rest of the summer. And what do you think ... do you think he will ever want to be with me again?

While Pianoguy senses that you'd be willing to tone down a bit in order to have a HAPPY relationship with this man...you missed one important point: HE DOESN'T KNOW IF YOU'RE THE WOMAN HE WANTS TO BE WITH!
And if this is the case...you CAN'T force his hand!
While you probably shouldn't have "moved in" with him....it's clear that living under the same roof wasn't a great plan, was it? When 2 people share the same space, they begin to see the 'bad sides' of each other's personalities...in addition to the good sides!
Keep things cool for the rest of the Summer...but if you have an option to live with family or a friend...DO IT! A little space between the b/f and you certainly wouldn't hurt! And believe it or not...having some time alone might help him realize what a terrific lady you are in his life! Perhaps he'll reach a decision about your future together?
Best of luck....
Pianoguy