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| Fri, 08-20-2004 - 5:21pm |
yes my husband said that he gets board with the sae women all the time. he says he loves me and it is not me, but he askeed me if he could see another women, but not have intercourse with her, he would only do it once a month just to give him something different, he still enjoys haveing sex with me and getting pleasure from me. but i don't know what i should do? can u help? i am worried that if i don't say yes to it that he will get board with me and leave, and if i do do it i am worried i will end up hurt. we talked about maybe i could do 3somes every once in a while to put some excitment into our relationship. what should i do? please help me.
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momofJr2004
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momofJr2004

If you want to put excitement into your sex life, try experimenting and exploring different acts or play out fantasies with each other. If that is not enough for him, and you go along with whatever he wants now, it will most likely escalate. Today it will be a threesome once a month and he'll have lunch with another woman once a month. Then he'll become bored with that and it will be sex clubs and that lunch will take place in a motel room.
If your husband wants to cheat and his value system allows him to, he will cheat regardless of what do out of fear and desperation. Of course his cheating would hurt you, but honestly wouldn't it hurt more if you gave him PERMISSION? Stand your ground and say no to anything that makes you uncomfortable or gives him your compliance to break your marriage vows. He might leave you, but he won't if he really loves you. And if he leaves you because getting some action on the side is more important to him than his marriage to you, then you don't have what you really need and want anyway - marriage to a man who loves, honors, and respects you far above his desire for variety.