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| Wed, 06-23-2004 - 3:17pm |
i need some help. Ive been with this guy for two years it was our anniversary on the 7th of June. We've had our share of fights believe me. Ive been living with him for a year and a half and ive moved out at least 5 times. But something always brings me back to him. Im 24 and he is my first boyfriend. I fell in love with him from the first time i met him. He had always told me i wasn't his usual type of girl but i never took it to mean something. Anyway We got in a fight the other day over something stupid as usual and he told me he didn;t want to be with me anymore and that he never liked me. Which im not sure i believe that. I need some help because i always said i love you but hes not the type to. Im not sure whats going on in his head. I need some advice i want him to stay with me because i love him and i want to be with him for the rest of my life....how do i get him to realize that i can be what he wants? Pls help????

'i want him to stay with me because i love him'
But do you want him to stay with you even though he does not love you??? Don't kid yourself by saying 'He isn't the type to say the L word'.
You are caught up in your love with him and not seeing the big picture here. Someday you will meet someone who says 'I love you' and shows it and you will realize that you wasted your time with someone over fear or habit or lack of experience.
I know you are hurting and don't want to end the relationship, but please, please don't try to hold on to someone that doesn't want to hold on. He may tell you want you want to hear, but then he will still be unhappy, living a lie and eventually he will leave anyway.
Loving someone isn't about obession, holding on, it's about mutual sharing, respect, trust, attraction, etc.
I wish you the best. Sorry you have to go through this.
Carrie