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| Tue, 05-25-2004 - 11:06am |
I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months now. In the beginning of our relationship, I was hesitant to trust him. He never did or said anything to make me not trust him. I've just always had a hard time trusting people, and I think that stems from past relationships. Anyhow to make a long story short, the other day, I had this feeling in my stomach that something was wrong. So I asked him about it. He told me that a girl called his house last week and left a message with his roommate. He never called her back. Apparently she called back a few days ago, and left another message for him to call. He did call her back, she never answered, end of story, or so he says. Now, we have both been very open and honest with each other, and I guess I'm just hurt because he didn't tell me that a girl was calling him. He says that he didn't want to tell me because he didn't think that it was a big deal and that he knew I would just get upset, in which I did. He also said he just called her to see what she wanted, with no intention of anything else. I know I'm making a huge deal over nothing, but do I have a right to be upset? I didn't yell at him or give him hell, but a part of me feels like my trust has been broken. We have since talked about it, and let it go, or at least he has, and he continues to tell me that he loves me and I have nothing to worry about. I'd like to think that, but part of me still thinks there is something he's hiding. What should I do? If there is more to the story, how can I get him to tell me instead of lying to me and ruining our relationship on the long run? Thanks in advance!

I, personally, would *not* tell my bf if another guy, say..an interested ex, called me because I wouldn't want to upset my bf or make him jealous for no reason. He has nothing to worry about. I'm not interested in anyone else, so why am I going to tell him about it? Just to upset him? Me telling my bf that another guy called is equivalent to telling him one of my friends doesn't like him. There's nothing to be done about it and it serves to do nothing but hurt him.
I think if there is no reason to suspect him of any wrong doing, then you should not be upset that he didn't mention it. I suspect that these trust issues may have nothing to do with your current bf. Don't make him suffer because of what past bf's have done.
VERY WELL SAID!
-amy- "CL-fiesty"