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| Sat, 04-10-2004 - 5:53pm |
I have only been married for 6 months and my husband acts like he cant stand me, we have issues that i want to work out and he acts like i am a head ache. I want make things right and work out our problems but he huffs and puffs at me acting like he is tired of me. I aske him how he feels or if hes mad at me for something, he says no. It seems like the harder i try the more pissed off he gets. I dont understand what i should do. Every time i ask him a guestion his answer is "I dont know". Like if i ask why he seems so angry all the time- i dont know. Any thing i ask he tells me that. i am so sick of hearing that. I am at a loss. I dont want to just let things slide because i am unhappy but it seems that i am getting no where trying. He wasnt like this before. We have been together for 5 years but this all started about 2 years ago. I am begining to wonder why we got married. I am sick of feeling like my husband cant stand me.

1. I feel hurt when you disrespect me
2. I want you to treat me well, as if you love me.
2. I want you to get a job by next week.
If you cannot get a job or treat me well (as if you really love me), then we will have to look at divorce since no woman can live with a man who treats her badly as you are. Do you want to know how you are treating me bad or do you just want to change and start treating me good like when we were first in love and first met. You have a week to change. Or else I am looking at divorce so I can meet someone who treats me well. Thanks.
This is an unfortunate and potentially serious situation.
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Also speaking from experience, individual counselling is never a bad thing. Individual because you really only can help/change yourself and the way you deal with the things beyond your control(ie. him) He could use it to. Then after a while, maybe try a joint session.
I agree that you seem to be at the point were you must decide - Am I prepared to risk this realtionship before I live like this forever? If you answer 'yes', lay your cards on the table with him. He must - fill in the blank - or you are done. Counselling will definately help you get clear on what 'your cards' are. Counselling will also help you prepare for the possibility that he won't rise to the occasion and you will need to walk away to have your happiness.
You must do something though because this is no way to live. Good luck and keep looking up^, Susan.
This is not a good situation. He can't tell you what he feels because of the judgement of how he would be labeled. So instead he's passive-aggressive with you to convey some of what he's feeling.
Please seek counseling for yourself. It will give you a safe place to vent and cry, help you sort out your emotions and give you direct on how to approach your husband to discuss the real issues.
Carrie