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Registered: 01-18-2008
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Wed, 07-30-2008 - 10:10pm

Hello All,


I am a proud mother of two sweet boys and engaged to their daddy.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 12:01pm

Welcome to the board mom_expecting2ndbaby,


Well one thing is for sure. You are not in a healhty relationship right now. I honestly don't believe in staying together for the children. What are you teaching them by staying with your husband. That it is okay to be in debt, stay out all night and drink, and not spend time with your family. That is not a good example to be setting for them.


Why doesn't he get a second job to help pay off his debt faster. That would be better than staying out all night with his friends.


I think you should seriously consider ending the relationship. Sorry.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 1:03pm

Welcome to the board mom_expecting2ndbaby,


Have you considered going with him on Sunday's?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2008
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 9:09pm

Thanks alot for taking the time to give your opinion, I really appreciate that. We dicussed the situation once again last night and he will start looking for a new job. I've also scheduled therapy for us. I guess I'm just really tired of being in the same situation and not seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. It scares me to think that we won't be able to provide much for our children in the future. I care about him very much and want us to move forward but, this situation has seemed never ending.

Hopefully, he will find another job and therapy will help us cope with the stress and learn better parenting skills.

Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2008
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 9:25pm

Hello,

You know what I have gone with him on Sundays but, it's hard now bc we have a little four month old and theres so much to prepare for Monday. You know all I've ever done is nag about the fact that he always goes out with his friends and never invites me. I always thought he should ask but, I will take your advice and ask him out on a date. Funny bc this week i won tickets to the movies.

No, he doensn't know I've cheated and I don't have intentions of telling him either bc my I know that would really hurt him. When I did what I did it was because I wanted attention. You know before the drama and the horrible financial situation we were really good friends and had lots of fun together. Don't know where that relationship went. Wish things weren't as complicated and we could go back to that. I say that I do it for the kids but, I don't want to ruin our family either.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 11:09am

Good for you for discussing the situation with him. I hope he is able to find another job and that the therapy is very helpful for you. Best of luck to you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2008
Sat, 08-02-2008 - 9:55am
Thanks alot for hearing me out, I really needed to vent.