Help!!!!!!

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Registered: 02-23-2007
Help!!!!!!
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Sat, 12-22-2007 - 2:46am

I'm really mad and really depressed. I dont know whether its the winter blues or what it is. But my boyfriend went to another city far away

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Registered: 08-21-2005
In reply to: jazzyjazz2004
Sat, 12-22-2007 - 7:41am

Sorry, but I don't really see much of a relationship here. Don't mean to be so blunt but don't know how else to put it. You both play games with each other and there are red flags everywhere. The key being that you mention several times you don't trust him. If you can't trust him, what's the point?

You have both kissed other people, don't trust each other, play games of ignoring each other, he went away and you weren't even sure if he was coming back.

I think you need counseling (if you haven't gone already) to deal with the traumatic event of being raped. That's a terrible thing you have gone through and I think you need to heal from the situation. No one should ever have to go through what you have!

My personal opinion is the BF is not worth your time. Work on yourself and find someone you can trust and invest yourself in.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: jazzyjazz2004
Sat, 12-22-2007 - 9:29am

The only things that are "wrong" with you are that you're confused, you don't seem to know what you want in a relationship, and you are not respecting yourself enough to do what's right for you.

You're getting mad at him for kissing other girls yet there's no consequence to his actions. If a man wants to cheat on you, getting mad isn't going to make him stop. He doesn't care how mad you are, or he wouldn't have cheated. When he does something that you can't tolerate then you leave.

Your relationship sucks after only six months. To believe this is a lasting relationship would be seriously erroneous.

I agree that rape is extremely damaging and you should be talking to a counselor, not trying to depend on a boyfriend who isn't really there for you. Cut him loose and start putting yourself first in your own life.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: jazzyjazz2004
Mon, 12-24-2007 - 11:23pm

Welcome to the board jazzyjazz2004,


Rape - RAINN Hotline 1-800-656-HOPE(4673)


Crisis Center: Rape & Suicide


Unfortunately, I too feel that there's not much of a relationship between the two of you.